教育的本质是帮助我们理解如何去思考，教我们如何去看待这个世界。
在繁琐无聊的生活中，时刻保持有意识（Self-awareness），知道什么对你是重要的，学会控制你的想法。“Less is more”，能把复杂的事情用简单的语言表达也是一种能力。
杜克大学的老师为毕业生画了14幅漫画，把看似繁琐的思维方式寥寥几笔就描绘了出来，让人一目了然。把这些看待事情的方式送给大家，希望能对各位有所启发。
01请密切留意，这就是你的生活
Pay close attention. This is your life.
“Pay close attention. This is your life.”
请密切留意，这就是你的生活
—Professor Deborah Pope,Department of English
活在当下，体会每一刻，生活会充盈许多。
2选择没有想象中那么重要
It is just a choice that leads to the next steps of life
“People always obsess over big decisions (e.g., which job/ position to accept), but really, tomorrow will always be a blur. Plan with calmness, and then take the leap in the direction you think is best, knowing that there will rarely be a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ but just a choice that leads to the next steps of life.”
人们总是过于在意那些重要的决定 (比如接受什么样的工作或者职位) 但是实际上明天总是难以确定的。用冷静的心做计划，向你认为最好的目标大胆进发，要知道，很少有所谓完全”正确”或是”错误”的决定，因为它们只不过都是一个让你的生命进入下一个阶段的决定。
—Professor Mohamed Noor,Department of Biology
‘选择’没有重要到可以决定我们的一生。
3
关系比索取更重要
Relationships
“You will get the more satisfaction about the relationships you form than from the things you acquire.”
和你得到的相比，你可以从和别人建立的关系中获得更多的满足感
—Joel Rosch,Center For Child and Family Policy
‘给’永远比‘拿’愉快
4不慕虚名
Respect people over job titles
“Respect people over job titles. Everyone’s life has meaning.”
尊重人而不是他们的头衔，每个人的生命都有自己的价值。
—Stacy Torian,Graduate School Admissions
我们的墓志铭，不需要头衔
5拒绝也是一种机遇
Instead of seeing it as a shutdown
look at it as an opportunity
“Learn to reframe rejection. Whether you’re working towards a leadership position or building a company, people will frequently tell you no. Instead of seeing it as a shutdown, look at it as an opportunity to figure out why. Are you asking the wrong person? Have you not yet demonstrated you can handle the new responsibility? Over time, ‘no’ becomes just another opportunity to wait, learn and try again.”
学会重新认识拒绝。当你处在一个领导者的位置或者建立一个公司的时候，人们会经常告诉你”不行”。但是与其把这个NO视为事情的结束，不如把它看作一个寻找原因的机会：你是不是找了错误的人? 你是不是还没有表现出你可以承担这个新责任的能力? 随着时间的推移，NO就会变成另一个等待，学习和尝试的机会。
—Kathryn Minshew ,Co-founder of The Muse
积极点，你能得到更多
6
价值，在挑战中体现
Find a place where you can be challenged
“Find a place where you can be challenged. Ask yourself: Am I proud of my work?”
找到一个可以挑战自己的地方。问自己:”我是否为我的工作感到自豪”
—Katie Smith,Career Center
热情地迎接挑战
7迷人的‘不确定性’
Embrace ambiguity
“Don’t be afraid to diverge from your ‘plan.’ Embrace ambiguity. The uncertain and what may appear high risk in relationships, jobs and life is usually very cool and worthwhile.”
别害怕偏离你的计划。勇敢的接受不确定性。那些在你感情，工作和生活上表现出不确定性和高风险的东西往往都是很酷而且很值得你尝试的。
—Christopher Simmons,Office of Federal Relations
未来的不可知，是我们前进的原动力
8学会反思
Stop and look back
“As you move forward into the next stage of your life, do not forget to stop and look back to discover the meaning of where you have been. That will help you better understand who you are, where you may be heading, and how you can get there.”
当你进入你人生的新阶段，别忘了停下来回头看看，去发现你过去经历的意义。它可以让你更好的了解你是谁，将到哪里去，如何去那里。
—David Steinbrenner,Postdoctoral Services
停下来，是为了更好地出发
9受教育不等于聪明
Being educated≠Smart
“Never confuse being educated with being smart.”
别把“受教育”和“聪明”混为一谈
—Michael Evans,School of Nursing
受教育和聪明共通的那部分，才是你想要成为的人
10慷慨待人
Be generous to other people
“Be generous to other people.”
慷慨待人
—Nia-Malika Henderson ,National political reporter for The Washington Post
勿以善小而不为
11广泛热情地阅读
Read broadly
“Read outside of your chosen field, read broadly, read enthusiastically. Creativity is a necessary life skill and some inspirations will come from unexpected sources.”
阅读自己领域之外的书，广泛并且热情地阅读。创造力是一个必需的生存技能，而一些灵感就来自于你不经意间的积累。
—Jan Little,Sarah P. Duke Gardens
阅读不仅要有深度，也要有广度
12诚实待己
Be true to yourself
“Be true to yourself. Be willing to learn and to be coachable.”
诚实地对待自己。求知若渴，虚怀若谷。
—Prim Siripipat ，ESPN Commentator
再也没有比自欺欺人更容易的事情了
13拥有感恩的心
Give back
“Give back—serve from a sense of gratitude.”
回馈——用感恩的心
—Sue Wasiolek,Dean of Students
爱在于感恩和传递
14坚持
Stick with it
“Stick with it.”
坚持
—Dorothy Kitchen,Duke University String School
坚持该坚持的，放弃该放弃的
原文地址http://today.duke.edu/showcase/mmedia/features/living_a_good_life_2014/
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